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Justine Young's avatar

And may I compliment you on this most excellent read..It has made my day, nay, my whole week where I have had this very issue on my mind !! Yes I too, can be stylish and creative in a larger body, but damn does it take effort compared to my starvation misery days where my reward was that there were loads of outfits in my favourite recycle shop that fitted and these days I have to scratch about

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GCS's avatar

"all the ugly clothes that always fit (WHY??) and (perhaps the worst of them all) the almost-perfect clothes that fit but have one completely ruinous detail (peplum, shoulder cutout, unfortunate print situation)"

God yes to the whole essay but especially this. Also, for ruinous details - fucking rhinestones! As a fat woman I promise I own enough jewelry so I can accessorize, I don't need stupid fucking rhinestones on my shirt.

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Law's avatar

Amen! And while we’re at it, please NO MORE COLD SHOULDERS or other cut outs (entire back side, sides of waist, etc) for no god-damned reason!

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Therry Neilsen-Steinhardt's avatar

Thank you for writing this. As a person who currently weighs what she weighed at 13, when she was a a fat teenager, I enjoy compliments, but I mostly want to epater les fucking bourgeoises.

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Erica Garcia's avatar

A thousand hearts ❤️ and heart eyes 😍 to this writing. You made this really hard part of life feel better this morning, thank you. May you slay today.

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Amy Aliazzo's avatar

I loved this and REALLY relate to the part about cancelling plans because you couldn't bring yourself to be perceived...I did that so many times!

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Erin Kelly's avatar

Love!!! I’ve been stuck in a style rut for a bit now (work from home, and also finally out of the pregnant/newborn/postpartum “who cares as long as I’m comfortable” phase), and I legit don’t know where to shop. I DO know that I don’t really WANT to shop, I just want cool clothes that fit to show up in my closet bc OMG the time/energy/emotion/etc involved is just. 🤯

So heck yeah for sharing some light on the other end of that tunnel!

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